How to be in a Beautiful State of Mind

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There are few motivational speakers that I enjoy listening to, and Tony Robbins is definitely one of them. He was here in my hometown last week for a talk, but I couldn’t make it. I watched his show later thanks to someone uploading it online. His talk inspired me in many ways, as usual, and as a result I decided to blog about it.

How to break free from a foggy state of mind (Which I, by the way, call it a confused state of mind), follow these steps as suggested by Tony Robbins.

  1. Focus on your goals. What is it that you want. It is really important to focus on what matters to you and don’t allow yourself to think about things that don’t matter. Don’t focus on the negatives, but focus on the positives.

So, the first step is to know what you want.

  1. Take massive action – execution. Do something about your wants. Start somewhere and put on some work to get some results.
  2. Have believe and faith in your dream.  Believe in God. He calls it “GRACE.”

Now this may sound simple, but it is challenging for many to put their goals into action. When we take an action, we either accomplish our goals or we don’t. When that happens what do we do? We try again, again, and again until we accomplish what we are after. We eventually find a way to get the work done.

There are two different state of minds: lower and higher state. We tend to be happier and positive when we are at a higher state of mind. When we are in the lower state of mind, we often feel stressed, depressed and or anxious. When you think negatively, it puts you in a lower state of mind. When you are in a higher state of mind, you achieve your goals. You usually gain victory and success, but there is no self-fulfillment. You are not content from inside. We are accomplishing our goals and getting things done, but there is no inner peace or happiness. When this happens we do things what seems to be right or do things for the sake of others. And in the process, we forget about ourselves. There is no self-fulfillment because we are too busy making others happy that we tend to forget about our own happiness. What Tony suggests is that we shouldn’t be in higher or lower state, but to be in a ‘beautiful state’ of mind. A beautiful state of mind means being happy with the outcome. It’s okay to think about one’s happiness as well. It is a well known fact that you can’t make everyone happy, so might as well do things that will put your heart at ease. People often mistake achievement with happiness. I liked the saying that goes “Don’t achieve to be happy, but happily achieve your goals.” It is very true if you think about it, we chase our dreams and goals with the intention that if we accomplish our goals then we will be happy. We often think, once I get that job then I will be happy. Do you think that to be true? Wrong! Just accomplishing goals cannot bring true fulfillment and happiness. There is more to it.  It is important to have a purpose in life. To gain internal happiness, we should always be in a state of gratitude.

We don’t have control over what people say or do, but we have control over how we react to it. Lastly,  I would like to end this post with my favorite line from Tony, “trade your expectations with appreciation,” and I couldn’t agree more.

His piece of work was definitely stimulating for me, I hope you guys enjoy this as much as I did.

 

 

 

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How to stay healthy and choosing healthier options

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I wasn’t always into fitness, but somehow I changed that. I truly believe we are all capable of achieving whatever we want to have in life, it is just a matter of taking action. We are all worthy of good life. Everyone has so much to offer to this world. And you CAN live a life you desire, you just have to start now! We can get so far with the right mind-set as long as we have the vision. Dream again! And dream big.

I don’t have a set fitness routine that I’d want to share, nor am I an expert in fitness, but I can share what has been working for me. You can find your own pace and see what works best for you.

Opt for healthier options:

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  • Start the day with a lemon water – starting with a lemon water will set you up for a clearer mind all day. It is also refreshing and has vitamin C.
  • Eating healthy: Consuming more vegetables and less fatty foods. Cutting down on carbohydrates and having it less than usual. You don’t need to change your diet. Just choose healthier options.

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  • Green tea- another of my favorites. I can’t stress enough the importance of drinking green tea. It stimulates body’s metabolism, and it also aids in weight loss.
  • Switching from regular oil to olive oil – Olive oil lowers the bad cholesterol and raises your good cholesterol.
  • Exercise– Of course it goes without saying that exercise plays a big role in our overall well-being. You can choose to live an active life today or you can choose not to. Pick up an activity you’d want to do: Is it going to the gym? or is it maybe going for a run? If all fails, start commuting to work by taking the bus or train it. Walk to the bus stop. You don’t always have to take your car when going places. When you are out to do your grocery shopping, try to leave your car behind. You don’t want to do it alone? – make it a group activity: Try involving your siblings, parents, friends, or your partner. Make it fun. I try to get mine done, on my own, in the evening when I am out for a walk. It is like killing two birds with one stone – you get your grocery shopping done while getting done with your exercise. Also, during my studies in the UK, I remembered looking for any opportunity to walk from point A to point B. Never had to take a bus or a train. You can also choose stairs over elevators, which is again something I picked up during my stay in the UK. I am grateful for those experiences because I know what is better for me now.

It is the little things that matter!
How do you stay fit mentally? You can feed your brain with positive thoughts, and constantly count your blessings. Having a positive mind-set is so important, and be thankful for everything in your life. Lastly, meditation helps with our mental well-being; it improves concentration levels and helps us to stay better focused in achieving our goals. Spare some time for meditation. You can check out my following blogs for tips on how to become more positive and be more grateful in your life.

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I want to wrap up this blog with this quote:

“When you hit a bump you pick yourself up and you keep going. Things don’t always turn out the way you imagine. Life deals you a hand and no matter what card you’re holding, you have to play it. …and it’s hard and it never stops being hard. But you learn …and you change … and you grow.”

I couldn’t agree more with these sayings, I am sure many of us can relate to it.

How do you manage to stay healthy?

Building Positivity in a Chaotic World

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“There’s something good in every day” – A mantra I believe in.

I have written this post on a different social platform, and here it is again.

What is it like to be in the right state of mind? Does it mean surrounding ourselves with positive people and having a positive outlook on life?

Recently I read an article about ‘the secret of getting into a right frame of mind.’

According to the article, the right state of mind is defined as being prepared and believing in our success.

Having a positive mind-set is not just about having pleasant thoughts, but preparing ourselves for whatever it is we want to achieve.

It takes practice, hard work and dedication.

While having a positive attitude is good, it is not enough.

Ultimately it’s our actions that influence our brain.

As the saying goes…

“When you are prepared you are confident, and when you are confident you know you will succeed.”

And as Henry Ford said…

“Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right.”

Often we harm ourselves with negative self-talk that holds us back.

We don’t take risks, we feel inadequate, we choose not to be vulnerable, and so that we end up creating these barriers and limit ourselves from all the possibilities out there.

We choose in-action over action.

That can be changed from a simple mindset shift from ‘What I Can’t Do’ to ‘What I Can Do.’

There are also some simple actions we can take to bring more positivity into our lives…

POSITIVITY BOOSTERS                                                

  • Always smile – Smiling is a source of positive energy not just to us, but to those around us
  • Be Active – Find an activity that you actually enjoy and make it part of your life. It can be as simple as going for a walk or dancing in your living room!!
  • Learn Something Daily – Pick up a hobby and learn a new skill. Choose a subject that will help you excel and study it. Learning boosts our self-confidence
  • Give – Be kind and generous – it’s one of the best feelings in the world!!
  • Be Mindful – Practice self-awareness and live in the present moment. It’s impossible to get upset about the past or worry about the future when you’re ‘in’ the present
  • Connect – A simple ‘hello’ to a stranger or a phone call to a friend can boost our positivity
  • Reframe Failure – See failure as a way to learn and grow.
  • Focus on Gratitude – Take a moment each day to focus on the things you are grateful for. This will make you more aware of the positive things around you.

Please find the blog link below:

Beyond Attitude – Building Positivity In A Chaotic World

Lastly, what do you do for staying positive?

Five Steps to Mental Well-being

Here’s another blog entry after ages. I got busy with massive school work.
I have been reading quite a bit on mental health  because it is the focus of my dissertation. I came across this one article that caught my attention. The article points out few steps for leading a positive mental attitude and the positive factors that are associated with keeping a positive outlook. According to the study, mental well-being is more than just being happy. There is more to it than what we think we know. It is about feelings of contentment, enjoyment, confidence and engagment with the world.

Here are five steps to a healthy mind that the NHS article points out:

1. Connect with people around you: Your friends, neighbor, coworker, and family. Engage with the world and spend time in the presence of others.
2. Be active – find an activity that you enjoy and make that part of your life. It can be as simple as going for a walk.
3. Keep learning – pick up a hobby or learn a new skill, as it adds a sense of achievement and that a lone can boost our self-esteem and self confidence.
4. Give to others – be kind and generous towards others. A simple thank you and a smile can make a lot of difference.
5. Be mindful of the people around you – take notice of everday life and live in the present moment.

I hope you find this helpful and use it as a starting point.

For more on mental well-being you can refer to the NHS site.
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How to Make Stress Your Friend!

Video_Kelly-McGonigal_How-to-make-stress-your-friendToday’s blog shares my favorite TED talk, which is about making stress your friend. A good friend of mine introduced me to this because I am a sucker for motivational talks.

I am really keen on positive affiliation. What and how we think about certain things can have a huge positive/negative impact on our health. So back to the Kelly McGonigal, she asked her audience, “do you believe stress is harmful for your health?” The ultimate point she was trying to make was that you can make stress to be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. What you think matters! She also asked “can changing how you think about stress make you healthier?” the science says yes.

When you change your mind about stress, you change your body’s response to stress. In other words how you think about stress actually matters! It is pretty fascinating to me, how our minds have the power to change the outcome of what we are feeling. It is all in our control whether we want to be stressed out or whether we take stress as a way that it is preparing our body for whatever thing we are stressing for. If your heart is pounding when next time you are up and giving a presentational talk or conversing with friends, then think of it as it is giving you energy to do that task. Pretty amazing eh?

Another interesting point was that oxytocin is a stress hormone that is tend to make you compassionate, caring and the job is so strengthen your relationship with others. A study was conducted in which they found that people age 34 to 93 with financial issues or any family crisis had an increased risk of dying by 30%. Whereas, people who spend time caring for others showed no stress related in dying risks. So caring created resilience.

How we think and act can transform our experiences of stress.

And I want to wrap this blog with Kelly’s message that “chasing meaning is better for your health than trying to avoid discomfort.” –-It basically means to trust yourself with anything that you follow and feel passionate about and trust yourself to handle the stress that comes with it.
To listen to the talk, click on the link below:
 Make Stress your Friend