The Gift of Giving: Gratitude and Happiness

What is the connection between happiness and gratitude? Do we need to be grateful in order to be happy? We are all seeking the one thing, and yet we are also very different in our approach. I watched this TED talk on happiness and gratitude not very long ago, and it made me reflect – Is happiness born from gratitude? Can we start experiencing more happiness when we start appreciating little things in life? The next few paragraphs are my random thoughts, so bear with me.

As I have been told every moment is an opportunity, and that is the key to happiness. I have yet to discover things for myself, but the minute I started being thankful for little things in my life…feelings of joy started to flow into my life. We are not born with this mind-set ofcourse, but we can make it a habit. I also think there is a joy in gift of giving. The more you give out, you receive triple the amount back.

What we imagine, we become, and what we think, we create. Hence, I truly believe that our thoughts and our minds are powerful tool in shaping us into who we want to become. If I am in charge and in control of my thoughts then I am in control of my well-being. While people are aware of the importance of physical health (we look after our body, we go for our routine check, and we spend endless hours in the gym to be healthy), attitudes toward mental health are different. Why aren’t we as concerned? Why is physical health given more importance than mental health? I keep raising this question, and it is amazing to see that people are now acknowledging it as well.

I think it boils down to one thing: Change the way you think about things. We miss out on every little things in life, and beautiful moments pass by if we are not present in the moment. We show gratitude towards people, and appreciate sweet gestures when we start to make a mental notice of our surroundings. So take a moment to appreciate when someone does something good for you, next time. Never take things for granted! You may not show them in words (as not everyone can be expressive), but accept it in your heart, and be thankful.

And when you are happy and show love to the things you want, you don’t just attract them, but will have no room for fear, insecurity, resentment, envy, and doubt. If you fear that what you are aiming for is impossible then just believe in your vision, imagine it and enjoy the process. Don’t worry about the outcome, as everything will fall into place. Just BELIEVE it. ENVISION it. And dream big! Many people are confused, not because they don’t know what they want, but because they are fearful and may question their ability whether they can or cannot. And they may or may not overcome it.

I also read an interesting research on health and happiness. I think it is no surprise that when we are fully energised, we get a lot of things done. Hence the point of the research was that in order to increase our level of energy, we need to be getting enough sleep and exercise, as the two are the predictors of wellbeing.

Research also showed happier people are more interested in the problems of the world, and in the problems of the people. They are more often and willingly to offer help. If you are asking well then, what might bring you happiness? – It is different to each one of us, but novelty and challenge contribute to people’s happiness. What is challenging for you might not be challenging for someone else, so you have to know what is right for you.

Recently, as I have learned, outcome does not matter as much. Just enjoy the process. I hope some can relate to this post or hoping that you can take something positive out of it.

 

 

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Motivation, Goal Setting and Dreams!

just-keep-moving-forward-and-dont-give-a-shit-about-what-anybody-thinks-do-what-you-have-to-do-for-youRecently, I took some skill developmental classes at Cardiff University; it is free courses that lead to completion of certification. I enjoyed these classes so much.  One of the classes taught us the importance of setting goals, and how to stay motivated.

Basically, motivation is a drive, an inner need and a desire to do something. There are two types of motivations: extrinsic and intrinsic.

Extrinsic motivation is the “have” to mentality. It is the desire to delay work and procrastinate and find excuses to not complete a task. The motivation is very restricted because we feel like we have to do the work. For instance, I have to throw the trash away or I have to complete the assignment. It is also refer to McGregor’s theory X, which states that people are naturally lazy. People inherently dislike work and will find ways to avoid it.

Intrinsic motivation or Theory y is the idea that people are self-motivated, ambitious and exercise self-control. This type of motivation is the “what is in it for me” mentality. Our “have to” mentality becomes “choose to” now. For instance, I choose to throw the trash away because I want to have a clean kitchen. There is a satisfaction in the work I do, so I do it because I will have a clean kitchen as a result of that.

Setting Goals:
– The best way to achieve our goals is to write them. The minute we write our goals it creates a sense of awareness into our minds. We become aware of our goals because we have now written it down, and we can go back to that piece of paper anytime we want.
– Plan the goals-  visualize it, create an image of how it will be to reach that goal. Don’t worry about how to achieve it yet, just see it and imagine the end results.
– Make short-term achievable goals- making more realistic and measurable goals that we know we can achieve.

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