How to be in a Beautiful State of Mind

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There are few motivational speakers that I enjoy listening to, and Tony Robbins is definitely one of them. He was here in my hometown last week for a talk, but I couldn’t make it. I watched his show later thanks to someone uploading it online. His talk inspired me in many ways, as usual, and as a result I decided to blog about it.

How to break free from a foggy state of mind (Which I, by the way, call it a confused state of mind), follow these steps as suggested by Tony Robbins.

  1. Focus on your goals. What is it that you want. It is really important to focus on what matters to you and don’t allow yourself to think about things that don’t matter. Don’t focus on the negatives, but focus on the positives.

So, the first step is to know what you want.

  1. Take massive action – execution. Do something about your wants. Start somewhere and put on some work to get some results.
  2. Have believe and faith in your dream.  Believe in God. He calls it “GRACE.”

Now this may sound simple, but it is challenging for many to put their goals into action. When we take an action, we either accomplish our goals or we don’t. When that happens what do we do? We try again, again, and again until we accomplish what we are after. We eventually find a way to get the work done.

There are two different state of minds: lower and higher state. We tend to be happier and positive when we are at a higher state of mind. When we are in the lower state of mind, we often feel stressed, depressed and or anxious. When you think negatively, it puts you in a lower state of mind. When you are in a higher state of mind, you achieve your goals. You usually gain victory and success, but there is no self-fulfillment. You are not content from inside. We are accomplishing our goals and getting things done, but there is no inner peace or happiness. When this happens we do things what seems to be right or do things for the sake of others. And in the process, we forget about ourselves. There is no self-fulfillment because we are too busy making others happy that we tend to forget about our own happiness. What Tony suggests is that we shouldn’t be in higher or lower state, but to be in a ‘beautiful state’ of mind. A beautiful state of mind means being happy with the outcome. It’s okay to think about one’s happiness as well. It is a well known fact that you can’t make everyone happy, so might as well do things that will put your heart at ease. People often mistake achievement with happiness. I liked the saying that goes “Don’t achieve to be happy, but happily achieve your goals.” It is very true if you think about it, we chase our dreams and goals with the intention that if we accomplish our goals then we will be happy. Once I get a higher payment job then I will be happy. Do you think that to be true? Wrong! Worldly affairs and just accomplishing goals will not bring true happiness. There is more to it.  It is important to have a purpose in life, and to go after our true purpose. To gain internal happiness we should  always be in a state of gratitude.

To be in a beautiful state of mind means putting an end to your sufferings. Figure out what emotions bother you, and then find out what triggers those emotions.

We don’t have control over what people say or do, but we have control over how we react to it. Lastly,  I would like to end this post with my favorite line, “trade your expectations with appreciation,” and I couldn’t agree more.

His piece of work was definitely stimulating for me, I hope you guys enjoy this as much as I did.

 

 

 

How I am Preparing for 2016: The Importance of Goal Setting

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I think, goal making requires our conscious decision of what it is that we want to achieve –  a change in our behavior? Improving our quality of life? Whatever is the reason, the truth is that small and realistic goals are easy to achieve, and they are often measurable. Our goal don’t have to be vague. The simpler it is, the better.

But why writing our goal is such an important practice? Because writing thoughts down on a paper creates a sense of awareness into our minds, and it puts it into perspective for us.

 Here’s my short-term goals for 2016. Also, sharing them here will help me achieve my goals, and I can hold myself accountable for it.

…some food for thought:

1. To start my day early & be more productive
I am not a morning person, but I always wanted to be one. And, so the goal for me is to hopefully turn into one– why is that important? Well, because it is. I can dedicate a whole new post about the benefits of waking up early, so I’ll leave that for now. But here’s why I want to start my day early: To meditate; to plan my day better; to eat breakfast; and to read for 15 to 20 minutes, before I start work. And yes it is possible because I have tried it, it isn’t going to be easy in the beginning, but with practice it can get better.

2. To exercise
I always wanted to stay active. I am going to set aside 1.5 to 2 hours a day for my workouts in the evening – we are not perfect let’s face it, and I have my days too when I don’t want to hit the gym or go for a walk, but I’ll make sure to make time for it. The idea is to find an activity that you really enjoy.

But really, we shouldn’t be limited to going to the gym only or running outside. There are great workout videos on YouTube that you can watch. On my lazy days, I do two sets of 5 minute ab workout at home when I am not in the mood to go to the gym. You can find many such 5 minute clips on YouTube. It is fun, it is easy to follow, and you don’t have to step out.

Having said that, I feel blessed to have access to a gym closer to where I live now.

3. To meditate
I am practicing mindfulness – it is work in progress, but hoping one day I can master it. I will use this time to reflect on the past. And look how far I’ve come along. I will also be using this time to stay in the present and appreciate life for what it is. As the saying goes, our pasts shape our future, and so there are no regrets in life but just learning. This is what I believe. I am a product of my experiences, they shape us into who we are today; and if it wasn’t for these experiences, we wouldn’t been the kind of persons we are today. As I always say, having a perspective is vital. I think a person without one is someone living life in a bubble –  and too afraid to let go.

4. To read books
To find time to read as many books, and articles as I can. I am aiming to finish at least one or two books by the end of December 2015.

These are my short-term goals for the next couple months. I am hoping to build on this list as I move forward.

What are your short-term goals? How are you preparing for 2016? I would love to hear your thoughts. Comment below!

Motivation, Goal Setting and Dreams!

just-keep-moving-forward-and-dont-give-a-shit-about-what-anybody-thinks-do-what-you-have-to-do-for-youRecently, I took some skill developmental classes at Cardiff University; it is free courses that lead to completion of certification. I enjoyed these classes so much.  One of the classes taught us the importance of setting goals, and how to stay motivated.

Basically, motivation is a drive, an inner need and a desire to do something. There are two types of motivations: extrinsic and intrinsic.

Extrinsic motivation is the “have” to mentality. It is the desire to delay work and procrastinate and find excuses to not complete a task. The motivation is very restricted because we feel like we have to do the work. For instance, I have to throw the trash away or I have to complete the assignment. It is also refer to McGregor’s theory X, which states that people are naturally lazy. People inherently dislike work and will find ways to avoid it.

Intrinsic motivation or Theory y is the idea that people are self-motivated, ambitious and exercise self-control. This type of motivation is the “what is in it for me” mentality. Our “have to” mentality becomes “choose to” now. For instance, I choose to throw the trash away because I want to have a clean kitchen. There is a satisfaction in the work I do, so I do it because I will have a clean kitchen as a result of that.

Setting Goals:
– The best way to achieve our goals is to write them. The minute we write our goals it creates a sense of awareness into our minds. We become aware of our goals because we have now written it down, and we can go back to that piece of paper anytime we want.
– Plan the goals-  visualize it, create an image of how it will be to reach that goal. Don’t worry about how to achieve it yet, just see it and imagine the end results.
– Make short-term achievable goals- making more realistic and measurable goals that we know we can achieve.

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