How to be in a Beautiful State of Mind

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There are few motivational speakers that I enjoy listening to, and Tony Robbins is definitely one of them. He was here in my hometown last week for a talk, but I couldn’t make it. I watched his show later thanks to someone uploading it online. His talk inspired me in many ways, as usual, and as a result I decided to blog about it.

How to break free from a foggy state of mind (Which I, by the way, call it a confused state of mind), follow these steps as suggested by Tony Robbins.

  1. Focus on your goals. What is it that you want. It is really important to focus on what matters to you and don’t allow yourself to think about things that don’t matter. Don’t focus on the negatives, but focus on the positives.

So, the first step is to know what you want.

  1. Take massive action – execution. Do something about your wants. Start somewhere and put on some work to get some results.
  2. Have believe and faith in your dream.  Believe in God. He calls it “GRACE.”

Now this may sound simple, but it is challenging for many to put their goals into action. When we take an action, we either accomplish our goals or we don’t. When that happens what do we do? We try again, again, and again until we accomplish what we are after. We eventually find a way to get the work done.

There are two different state of minds: lower and higher state. We tend to be happier and positive when we are at a higher state of mind. When we are in the lower state of mind, we often feel stressed, depressed and or anxious. When you think negatively, it puts you in a lower state of mind. When you are in a higher state of mind, you achieve your goals. You usually gain victory and success, but there is no self-fulfillment. You are not content from inside. We are accomplishing our goals and getting things done, but there is no inner peace or happiness. When this happens we do things what seems to be right or do things for the sake of others. And in the process, we forget about ourselves. There is no self-fulfillment because we are too busy making others happy that we tend to forget about our own happiness. What Tony suggests is that we shouldn’t be in higher or lower state, but to be in a ‘beautiful state’ of mind. A beautiful state of mind means being happy with the outcome. It’s okay to think about one’s happiness as well. It is a well known fact that you can’t make everyone happy, so might as well do things that will put your heart at ease. People often mistake achievement with happiness. I liked the saying that goes “Don’t achieve to be happy, but happily achieve your goals.” It is very true if you think about it, we chase our dreams and goals with the intention that if we accomplish our goals then we will be happy. Once I get a higher payment job then I will be happy. Do you think that to be true? Wrong! Worldly affairs and just accomplishing goals will not bring true happiness. There is more to it.  It is important to have a purpose in life, and to go after our true purpose. To gain internal happiness we should  always be in a state of gratitude.

To be in a beautiful state of mind means putting an end to your sufferings. Figure out what emotions bother you, and then find out what triggers those emotions.

We don’t have control over what people say or do, but we have control over how we react to it. Lastly,  I would like to end this post with my favorite line, “trade your expectations with appreciation,” and I couldn’t agree more.

His piece of work was definitely stimulating for me, I hope you guys enjoy this as much as I did.

 

 

 

Norvan Falls & Cypress Falls

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Summer 2017 is the year to explore BC – go on hikes, and chasing waterfalls. I have lived in B.C long enough, but it is a pity that I didn’t get to explore these hidden gems long ago. I have a newfound love for waterfalls. I was so excited to get to these falls and to spend some time with nature.

Norvan falls, Cleveland dam and Cypress falls were on top of my list to visit for many reasons – they are well known hiking trails and they are close to home.  They are easily accessible via public transportation, which makes it even more appealing.

Norvan Falls is a spectacular waterfall hike located in Lynn Headwaters Regional Park, in North Vancouver. There are two trails that takes you there: Cedars Mill Trail and Lynn Headwaters Trail. My friend and I decided to take the longer trail via Lynn headwaters, which is 16km round trip – approximately 5 hours trip. It was an amazing experience. Glad we took the longer trail – it was scenic and we experienced beautiful forest view. This trail is rocky, but the hike itself is not steep or too bumpy but it is a long walk. I remember asking other hikers for the distance and how far more to hike to get to our destination – which was Norvan falls (though there were signs indicating the distance in km, but we didn’t seem to notice it at first). It took us approximately 2.5 hrs. to get to our destination.

As soon as I reached to the waterfall – I took off my shoes and couldn’t wait to dip my toes into the icy river. It felt so good because I was extremely exhausted. It was a perfect spot to rest. And I was glad my friend liked the place as much I did because I sort of  made her to hike with me.

On the way, back we hiked the shorter trail via Cedars Mill Trail, which was a flat hike.

Cypress Falls – this is a short hike in West Vancouver. The trail is very close to the city, yet one gets to experience such a beautiful forest view. I was shocked to see a forest so near to the city.  I hiked this trail on my own, so I was more self aware and mindful of where I was headed. I saw few small waterfalls and the hike is relatively short compare to Norvan falls. I also enjoyed the great forest view as you pass through the woods, and I found the trails to be wider and bumpy. Also, trails are not marked and so it can get quite messy and difficult because you don’t know where you are going. It is easy to get lost, I suppose, so it’s better not to hike it alone. Though I liked the lush green forest and the fact that it was less crowded. It was also a perfect spot to meditate while enjoying a quiet and peaceful walk.

Cleveland dam is another great place to hike and to be in the presence of nature. Again this hike gets you to couple waterfalls, but you only get to see them from a distance, and it is a short hike. I noticed different trails, but they were all marked, so it was easy to follow through. And the hike was flat.

My overall experience, I loved them all.

What is your favorite hiking trail in B.C or outside B.C? Share in the comments below.

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Norvan Falls

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Cypress Falls

 

 

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Cleveland Dam

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GIVE

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This post was inspired a week ago as I was roaming around in the city, and thought about how can I make a contribution to our community. How can I give back in a small way. I’ve volunteered in the past, and it is a great way to give back to the community. But that day, I was more interested to brighten someone’s day. To be the reason for someone’s happiness. Nothing huge, yet something small. I am sure many of you can relate to this feeling. When was the last time you helped someone out without any selfish reasons. What I mean by helping someone out is to give, but not expect anything in return. To help out without selfish motives. Is that possible though? Can we be absolutely sure that we are not expecting anything in return. Even if there are no expectations, we do expect something in return- God’s blessings, or expect a reward for our good deeds. I am not saying there is anything wrong in that, I guess we need a motivation to do good. Whatever the reason be, we shouldn’t stop helping out.

Recently, I distributed baked goods and pastries to homeless people in the area. Sometimes, I would give away my small change (if I have any), but that particular day I distributed pastries from a local store. I ended up saving the last piece as a treat for myself. And I broke my fast with it.

How do you help others in a small way?

 

 

Rumi Quotes

 

All time Favorite Rumi Quotes!

  • Last night I dreamed I had no possessions, and I nearly fainted from joy.
  • Do not worry about tricks and cheat. If some people are trying to trap and hurt you, God is also trapping them. Hole diggers fell in their holes. No bad remains non punished, no good remains non awarded. Have faith in justice and let the rest be. ~ Shams Tabrizi
  • As you begin to walk out on the way The way appears. ~ Rumi
  • The soul has no concept of borders, only the concept of love.
  • Many of the faults you see in others, dear reader, are your own nature reflected in them. ~ Rumi
  • My dear heart, never think you are better than others. Listen to their sorrows with compassion. If you want peace, don’t harbor bad thoughts, do not gossip and don’t teach what you do not know.
  • When setting out on a journey, do not seek advice from those who have never left home.~ Rumi

Reasons Why Women Should Travel Solo

Reasons why women should travel solo at least once in their lives.

A good reminder and I couldn’t agree more. For full article click on the link below.

“Going on a solo trip, as a woman, has got to be one of the most liberating, eye-opening and exciting experiences that you will ever have in your lifetime. Without your bestie or a companion by your side, you will have the complete freedom to do everything and anything your heart desires. What’s more, traveling solo can in a lot of different ways mold you into a fearless, better and more independent lady.

While it may seem scary and intimidating, traveling solo is a soul-stretching adventure that every woman must try at least once.

It makes you more adaptable

It’s a great confidence booster

You get to know more about yourself

It helps break the stigma

It pushes you outside your comfort zone”

10 Reasons Why Women Should Travel Solo At Least Once In Their Lives

The Gift of Giving: Gratitude and Happiness

What is the connection between happiness and gratitude? Do we need to be grateful in order to be happy? We are all seeking the one thing, and yet we are also very different in our approach. I watched this TED talk on happiness and gratitude not very long ago, and it made me reflect – Is happiness born from gratitude? Can we start experiencing more happiness when we start appreciating little things in life? The next few paragraphs are my random thoughts, so bear with me.

As I have been told every moment is an opportunity, and that is the key to happiness. I have yet to discover things for myself, but the minute I started being thankful for little things in my life…feelings of joy started to flow into my life. We are not born with this mind-set ofcourse, but we can make it a habit. I also think there is a joy in gift of giving. The more you give out, you receive triple the amount back.

What we imagine, we become, and what we think, we create. Hence, I truly believe that our thoughts and our minds are powerful tool in shaping us into who we want to become. If I am in charge and in control of my thoughts then I am in control of my well-being. While people are aware of the importance of physical health (we look after our body, we go for our routine check, and we spend endless hours in the gym to be healthy), attitudes toward mental health are different. Why aren’t we as concerned? Why is physical health given more importance than mental health? I keep raising this question, and it is amazing to see that people are now acknowledging it as well.

I think it boils down to one thing: Change the way you think about things. We miss out on every little things in life, and beautiful moments pass by if we are not present in the moment. We show gratitude towards people, and appreciate sweet gestures when we start to make a mental notice of our surroundings. So take a moment to appreciate when someone does something good for you, next time. Never take things for granted! You may not show them in words (as not everyone can be expressive), but accept it in your heart, and be thankful.

And when you are happy and show love to the things you want, you don’t just attract them, but will have no room for fear, insecurity, resentment, envy, and doubt. If you fear that what you are aiming for is impossible then just believe in your vision, imagine it and enjoy the process. Don’t worry about the outcome, as everything will fall into place. Just BELIEVE it. ENVISION it. And dream big! Many people are confused, not because they don’t know what they want, but because they are fearful and may question their ability whether they can or cannot. And they may or may not overcome it.

I also read an interesting research on health and happiness. I think it is no surprise that when we are fully energised, we get a lot of things done. Hence the point of the research was that in order to increase our level of energy, we need to be getting enough sleep and exercise, as the two are the predictors of wellbeing.

Research also showed happier people are more interested in the problems of the world, and in the problems of the people. They are more often and willingly to offer help. If you are asking well then, what might bring you happiness? – It is different to each one of us, but novelty and challenge contribute to people’s happiness. What is challenging for you might not be challenging for someone else, so you have to know what is right for you.

Recently, as I have learned, outcome does not matter as much. Just enjoy the process. I hope some can relate to this post or hoping that you can take something positive out of it.

 

 

How to stay healthy and choosing healthier options

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I wasn’t always into fitness, but somehow I changed that. I truly believe we are all capable of achieving whatever we want to have in life, it is just a matter of taking action. We are all worthy of good life. Everyone has so much to offer to this world. And you CAN live a life you desire, you just have to start now! We can get so far with the right mind-set as long as we have the vision. Dream again! And dream big.

I don’t have a set fitness routine that I’d want to share, nor am I an expert in fitness, but I can share what has been working for me. You can find your own pace and see what works best for you.

Opt for healthier options:

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  • Start the day with a lemon water – starting with a lemon water will set you up for a clearer mind all day. It is also refreshing and has vitamin C.
  • Eating healthy: Consuming more vegetables and less fatty foods. Cutting down on carbohydrates and having it less than usual. You don’t need to change your diet. Just choose healthier options.

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  • Green tea- another of my favorites. I can’t stress enough the importance of drinking green tea. It stimulates body’s metabolism, and it also aids in weight loss.
  • Switching from regular oil to olive oil – Olive oil lowers the bad cholesterol and raises your good cholesterol.
  • Exercise– Of course it goes without saying that exercise plays a big role in our overall well-being. You can choose to live an active life today or you can choose not to. Pick up an activity you’d want to do: Is it going to the gym? or is it maybe going for a run? If all fails, start commuting to work by taking the bus or train it. Walk to the bus stop. You don’t always have to take your car when going places. When you are out to do your grocery shopping, try to leave your car behind. You don’t want to do it alone? – make it a group activity: Try involving your siblings, parents, friends, or your partner. Make it fun. I try to get mine done, on my own, in the evening when I am out for a walk. It is like killing two birds with one stone – you get your grocery shopping done while getting done with your exercise. Also, during my studies in the UK, I remembered looking for any opportunity to walk from point A to point B. Never had to take a bus or a train. You can also choose stairs over elevators, which is again something I picked up during my stay in the UK. I am grateful for those experiences because I know what is better for me now.

It is the little things that matter!
How do you stay fit mentally? You can feed your brain with positive thoughts, and constantly count your blessings. Having a positive mind-set is so important, and be thankful for everything in your life. Lastly, meditation helps with our mental well-being; it improves concentration levels and helps us to stay better focused in achieving our goals. Spare some time for meditation. You can check out my following blogs for tips on how to become more positive and be more grateful in your life.

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I want to wrap up this blog with this quote:

“When you hit a bump you pick yourself up and you keep going. Things don’t always turn out the way you imagine. Life deals you a hand and no matter what card you’re holding, you have to play it. …and it’s hard and it never stops being hard. But you learn …and you change … and you grow.”

I couldn’t agree more with these sayings, I am sure many of us can relate to it.

How do you manage to stay healthy?